March 21st - June 21st 2021

Experience the Magic of Heart Intelligence

Rekindle Your Fire

Feel Your Depth

Open Your Heart

Reach Your Potential

Rekindle Your Fire

Feel Your Depth

Open Your Heart

Reach Your Potential

In a single weekend you can discover more about yourself than you could in years. It’s the benefit of being in an amplified field together with a tribe of courageous, loving and open Hearts.

"Practical skills to live more joyful lives - this training is heart-centered, heart-led and heart-opening. You will laugh. You will cry.

But most of all you will deepen in an experience of what it is to truly feel loved and to love others authentically from your innermost heart."
Priya Mahtani
Heart iQ Coach, Graduated in 2014

What Is Heart iQ?  


Why does it matter?

"Heart iQ's mission is to offer men, women and couples a healthy imprint for being fully conscious, compassionate & connected with themselves and to others. Through a process of experiential and embodied practice, participants are lovingly and expertly guided to meet and embrace all aspects of themselves, together with others in community and tribe. By doing this important work, we put an end to the passing down of toxic pain and dysfunction from one generation to the next, so that our children can help shape a better world."
Christian Pankhurst
Founder of Heart iQ

A Way to Live Life From Your Heart

Heart iQ is a practice built upon the art, science and philosophy of intimate human connection and relationships.
It's a language of unconditional love
A language of the Heart, which goes well beyond just the verbal expressions that most of us rely upon.
It integrates every facet of the human-spiritual experience
Using your fully embodied emotions, energy, sexuality, intellectuality, intuition and spiritual resources to express your deepest truth.
It is a practice that connects us
And when you practice regularly, you'll have the key to unlocking unlimited Joy.
Heart iQ crosses all borders, all cultures, and transcends all verbal limitations
Heart iQ is a global bridge that can deepen and transform the relationship you have with yourself, as well as your relationships with friends, family and partners.
As more of us learn Heart iQ, we can transform our communities, build tribes, and even impact our nations
Reconnecting all of us to our own intrinsic goodness and essence, to one another, to Mother Earth, and to the divine.
Heart iQ is a way to reconnect to ourselves, our loved ones & to contribute to peace & unity on Earth.
(Early Bird Ends December 21st 2020)

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There are 2 ways to experience The Heart iQ Challenge.Choose your preferred option below, and let your journey to true relationship health begin!

What is the Heart iQ Experience?

The Heart iQ Experience weekend is our Level 1 event, perfect for those new to Heart iQ and for those who have previously attended a retreat and wish to brush up on their skills and reconnect to the community.

In this weekend experience, you’ll be in a potent, transformational team with Christian, allowing you to experience new and liberating ways to connect to your true essence and melt the defensive walls that keep you from opening your Heart and tapping your potential that is buried beneath years of habitual closure and conditioning.

You’ll get to practice opening, not through psychological analysis, processing of your stories or digging up your past, but through exercises that connect you to your body, your life force and your vast depth of emotion and feeling.

You’ll learn how to communicate your truth from the deepest part of you, helping you express and share yourself with others and the world. In essence, you’ll be learning a new language — a language of unconditional love that goes way beyond the verbal expression that most of us rely upon.

It is a language that connects our Hearts, and when you become fluent, you'll have the key to unlock unlimited Joy whenever you want!

Deep personal happiness, healthy intimate relationships and resonant communities are created when these tools are learned, practiced and used in daily life.

If you feel called to study a deeper, richer, more heart-based approach to authentic leadership and connection, then look no further – the Heart iQ Experience will help you get there.

"The Greatest Gift You Can Give to Your Children is to Become a Fully Healthy You."

Your personal healing journey has led you here for a reason. You are ready to share your joy and your pain with other courageous loving and open hearts. You are ready to go deep, together.

What will I learn?

You’ll receive some of the most cutting-edge practices, teachings and tools in the personal awakening space that you can apply to your life forever.  

Move instantly from a collapsed place of unworthiness into your strength and authentic power.

Tap into your inner knowing to Remember Your Life’s Purpose.

How to liberate your bound life force energy that is dormant and 'stuck' in your physical, emotional and energetic body.

How to heal your wounding and transform them into gifts to share with the world.

How to remove the resistance that holds you back in life.

How to receive more of what you want.How to open your Heart to others and let in the joy of being seen, heard and felt.

How to show up fully in life and to feel, express and live your deepest truth, moment by moment.

Follow Your Heart & Take Inspired Action Today

You can empower your life, relationships and community with Heart iQ’s transformational technology. The benefits are truly limitless.

The Heart iQ Experience is an experiential weekend mini-retreat that will help you create more personal happiness, deep healthy intimate relationships, and resonant families.

Give us a shot!

If you want to feel more joy in your life, while learning how to connect more deeply to others in a real, authentic way, then this retreat will light you up!

Authentic connection and intimacy in relationships

Deep personal happiness, healthy intimate relationships and resonant communities are created when these tools are learned, practiced and used in daily life.

If you feel called to study a deeper, richer, more heart-based approach to authentic leadership and connection, then look no further – the Heart iQ Experience will help you get there.
What You'll Learn 

Live Event Content Breakdown

During the Heart iQ Experience, you will be guided through personal, inter-personal and circle practices. See below for a summary of what you'll learn in each of these areas.

"The Greatest Gift You Can Give to Your Children is to Become a Fully Healthy You."

Your personal healing journey has led you here for a reason. You are ready to share your joy and your pain with other courageous loving and open hearts. You are ready to go deep, together.

Benefits of Attending May Include...

New Insights
You’ll receive some of the most cutting-edge practices, teachings and tools in the personal awakening space that you can apply to your life forever.  
Personal Power
Move instantly from a collapsed place of unworthiness into your strength and authentic power.
Deeper Purpose
Tap into your inner knowing to Remember Your Life’s Purpose.
Restore Your Wholeness
How to liberate your bound life force energy that is dormant and 'stuck' in your physical, emotional and energetic body.
Heal Trauma
How to heal your wounding and transform them into gifts to share with the world.
Remove Resistance
How to remove the resistance that holds you back in life.
Receive
How to receive more of what you want.
Feel More
How to open your Heart to others and let in the joy of being seen, heard and felt.
Reach Your Potential
How to show up fully in life and to feel, express and live your deepest truth, moment by moment.

Happier & Healthier

Joy is your natural state of being. When you remove the resistance in your life, this natural joy will bubble to the surface and your body will respond with increased energy & vitality.
Track Your Inner World
Being able to consistently access joy in your daily life can be challenging. We've devised a system of processing your moment-to-moment reality called Heart iQ Tracking.

Heart iQ Tracking provides valuable insight into what’s causing resistance to joy, what’s getting in the way, and which thoughts and judgments are keeping you from loving what is alive in you in every moment.
Increase Capacity
Capacity is the amount of open 'bandwidth' you have available to stay connected to your Heart before you become triggered into collapse, fight, or flight.

If you are operating at low capacity, you will not have the emotional and mental strength to meet your pain and the pain of others in a beneficial and non-toxic way.

During the Heart iQ Experience, you will receive several practices to increase your natural state of capacity.
Amplify Presence
Presence is more than the act of being attentive. In Heart iQ we define Presence as the integrated practice of being in connection to your breath, feeling grounded, energetically 'holding' while being tethered to source and meeting the moment with an open, responsive Heart.

In the Heart iQ Experience you will be guided through practices to increase your embodied presence which will serve every Heart you touch.
Raise Consciousness
A big part of the Heart iQ Experience is to become aware of the multiple layers that make up 'you'. You will learn how to become conscious of your defence mechanisms, your shadows and your blind spots as well as how you suppress your pain and express yourself in unhealthy and toxic ways.

Raising your consciousness in these areas is key to changing old habits and establishing new healthy behaviours.
Become Embodied
Heart iQ is an embodied way of connection and communication with oneself and other. To become more embodied, you’ll embrace bringing your awareness into the body, deepening your connection to movement, breath, sound & touch.

In the Heart iQ Experience you’ll have the opportunity to deepen your embodiment, and as a result, activate your life force while staying grounded and connected to your intrinsic goodness & authentic essence.
Detoxify the BodyMind
Most people are aware of nutritional cleanses where one detoxes the body from the accumulated gunk created from unhealthy eating habits.

However, we also need to cleanse our emotional and energetic bodies from the toxic buildup of repressed pain created by making choices that distract us from our feelings and expressing our full light.

In the Heart iQ Experience, you will enter into a gentle detox of your emotional and energetic body bringing awareness, compassion and lightness to your being.
Manage Energy, Trigger & Trauma
We are all source connected expressions of love and light. Yet we also carry wounding and trauma, that can often go “underground,” sabotaging our personal happiness and relationships.

In the Heart iQ Experience, you will learn how to hold all of your parts in love and navigate triggers more effectively.

Better Relationships

When you remove the resistance in your life and open your Heart fully, you'll have better sex, your relationships will thrive and intimacy will deepen to unimaginable depths.
Share Triggers Effectively
Most of us have felt triggered in connection with others, especially those we love. Learning how to track these triggers and unpack the 'zip file' so we may own our projections and stay in healthy connection is a cornerstone of Heart iQ.

In the Heart iQ Experience, you will practice sharing your inner world without blame or collapse, while staying in your truth. Building this capacity will allow you to feel others and be felt, to be in connection rather than conflict, in what historically may have felt stressful and overwhelming.  
Own Your Stuff
Knowing how to listen, acknowledge, praise, reassure, confirm another's reality, while moving your emotion in a non-toxic way is critical.

You'll learn how to consciously express and own your stuff which will create more connection rather than closure and shut down.
Release Toxic Relationship Dynamics
When we're not conscious of how we use our pain to hurt, manipulate, castrate or punish, we are in a state of weaponised closure, where our closed heart is now wanting to act out rather than open to the heart break and be with it consciously.

You're going to learn how to track your pain, your shadows and defence strategies while learning how to communicate them lovingly with compassion and grace.
Resolve Conflicts Artfully
It is expected that as we journey together and open our hearts, disappointment, hurt and boundary violations will come up. However, how we communicate and repair in those moments is not only critical, it's an art form.

n the Heart iQ Experience, you'll have the opportunity to practice and experience how intimacy can actually deepen through sharing your withholds.
"Dare to Share"
It's easy to share non-triggering stuff when everyone is in a good place. But how to share when there’s a risk of causing pain, heartbreak or anger?

In the Heart iQ Experience, you'll be invited to practice sharing in a way that will avoid the common pitfalls of this level of communication, allowing you to be free to live your truth.
Agreements for a Safe Container
Making relationship and connection agreements is one of the most vital things you can do to foster both your personal awakening, as well as create depth, intimacy and juiciness in your relationships.

Much of the pain that’s transferred between you and another is due to personal and relationship boundaries not being defined and needs not being spoken.

Thriving Community

Heart iQ is a new operating system that can power thriving commmunities around the world. During the Heart iQ Experience, you'll learn about creating safety, building resonance, resolving conflict and how to heal together with others in tribe.
The Laws of Energetic Group Dynamics
When gathering together in groups larger than 8, group dynamics begin to emerge. Learning to understand these dynamics will help you translate what is happening without taking on the energies in the amplified field.

Being in circle can be very rich and gratifying, but if you don't understand what is happening in the field, it can leave you confused, disconnected and re-traumatised.
The Heart iQ Circle Protocol
In the Heart iQ Experience, you will be trained in a basic structure around how to be in circle, how to open up the space and guide shares, as well as how to share impact and 'medicine' and close the circle properly.

Learning to facilitate basic structure is a key element in Heart iQ as circles derail very quickly without leadership. Leadership in a circle is provided by different members in the group who have clarity on what’s moving in the moment.
Group Agreements
Having clear agreements is critical for successful communities and circles to flourish. Agreements create a container for everyone to rest in, and it establishes safety and protocols for certain dynamics if and when they occur.

The more we speak the unspoken, the more resonant a field becomes. Therefore, the clearer you make the agreements up front, the higher the quality of circle you will have.
Heart iQ Wisdom Council
One of the most powerful ways to get insight about a specific area of your life is to call a ‘wisdom council’. We can leverage the wisdom of the amplified field to reflect areas of your life that you might be missing or that are hidden in your blind spots.

Learning to be in a wisdom council is a great skill to have and will serve you and others for the rest of your life.
Clearing Conflict in Circle
An important part of community living is to clear conflicts quickly and directly in order to keep the field and the community emotionally hygienic.

However, learning to clear withholds and judgments without getting into deeper conflict and disconnection requires a lot of skill and practice, a journey you will begin here in the Heart iQ Experience.
Giving & Receiving Feedback
Feedback is the key to growth. We cannot see ourselves fully without a mirror. Learning to give high quality feedback requires wielding a sharp and accurate sword since there’s no use in looking into a distorted mirror. Similarly, receiving feedback requires openness to change and humility to accept what might feel like bitter pills to swallow.
(Early Bird Ends December 21st 2020)

Save 50% by Registering Early

There are 2 ways to experience The Heart iQ Challenge.Choose your preferred option below, and let your journey to true relationship health begin!

Select Your Retreat

Prices on a Sliding Scale: Pay according to your capacity.

As a gesture towards economic equity we’re introducing a sliding scale for our retreat fees. In previous years we have seen that fixed prices hindered access for many who might benefit from the experience and the transformation we can offer. A sliding scale allows us to serve people from a wider range of economic groups while maintaining retreat fees as a reliable pillar of our economy / income.

The success of a sliding scale requires community collaboration. Ideally it allows everyone to pay what they’re able to, while honouring the time and resources invested into the courses. The mid-point of the scale reflects our best translation into a monetary sum of the time, energy and material we put into the courses; the higher end of the sliding scale balances the lower one.  

SWITZERLAND

€1997
November 25th - 27th

LOCATION: NYON (Near Geneva)
Friday: 6.30pm - 9.30pm
Saturday: 9am - 9.30pm
Sunday: 9am - 6pm

TICKETS: Start at 299 CHF

UK

€1997
December 9th-11th

LOCATION: MANNINGTREE (Near Harwich)
Friday: 6.30pm - 9.30pm
Saturday: 9am - 9.30pm
Sunday: 9am - 6pm


TICKETS: Start at £199

Our Quality Guarantee and Refund Policy

100% QUALITY GUARANTEE:
We want you to be in your joy when registering for this event, so we've decided to remove all of the risk!

If after completing the event (all sessions), you feel we did not deliver the value expected, just let one of our event staff know at the end of the event (but before you leave) and we'll arrange an immediate refund.
What Others Say

Hear directly from other Heart iQ Graduates

“As guys, we don’t know how to access our emotions, but the work of Heart iQ has made it safe for me to go there.”
Marc
United Kingdom
“I had become blocked in my feelings for my wife and children. With Heart iQ, I started having more space inside me to feel how much love I have for all of them. I’ve learned that I have to keep my inner space clear so that I can feel what’s important to me. It’s the space inside me that allows me to let them in more deeply.”
Simon M
United Kingdom
“These days, I have shared things with my husband that I haven’t shared in seventeen years, and it feels so great and relieving—and he is still here! To have all these tools and to experience that people can go through things and feel more joy, all this is encouraging me to know that I can do this more in my life.”
Andrea
Switzerland
“I had become blocked in my feelings for my wife and children. With Heart iQ, I started having more space inside me to feel how much love I have for all of them. I’ve learned that I have to keep my inner space clear so that I can feel what’s important to me. It’s the space inside me that allows me to let them in more deeply.”
Simon
United Kingdom
“I can now feel what I want and then ask for what I want. This had made a huge difference for me to feel safe and secure in my relationship.”
Sue
United Kingdom
“I can’t really remember feeling so joyful before; I’m wide open! I feel like I’ve been present to a coming together in such a beautiful way through this work.”
Simon G.
United Kingdom
“These days, I have shared things with my husband that I haven’t shared in seventeen years, and it feels so great and relieving—and he is still here! To have all these tools and to experience that people can go through things and feel more joy, all this is encouraging me to know that I can do this more in my life.”
Andrea
Switzerland
“I’m taking away an acceptance that it’s okay and safe to embrace all of me. In fact, I relish it now because that’s when my heart smiles!”
Eugene
United States
“Through this work, I know that it’s safe to speak my truth in the moment and that I can rely on my own safety within.”
Satya
Netherlands
“I feel joyful, light, still, and allowed to drop deep in my feminine power and vulnerability. I thank you for having such a clear program, and in such a short time, getting to the core.”
Atar
France
“Sometimes, I end up getting stuck on what I want, and I can’t see the whole picture. Through this work, I’ve realized I have such a great relationship with my partner. We have a wonderful life together!”
Josefina
Sweden
“There have been so many ‘Oh My God!’ life-changing moments; it’s fantastic!”
Christina
United Kingdom
“This is one of the best personal development experiences I’ve had in my eighteen years of working on myself. You incorporate the whole experience—body, mind, and spirit. It was so rich!”
Mathias
Sweden
“The most important thing I take away is to be able to track my own thoughts and feelings and not to immediately judge them or diagnose myself after ten seconds. I don’t have to follow old patterns, and it feels really good! It’s been a confirmation that all the things we’ve done to this point have brought us here, and I know I’m on the way now.”
Olle
Sweden
“I realize that it can be joyful to work on my shit!”
Karen
Netherlands
“I’m taking away a clear and constant heart. I’m taking away tools that can make my really good relationship great!”
Dan
United Kingdom
“I feel really open—I feel like I have love for the whole world. I never thought it would be possible in such a short time to get insights that I’ve been trying to find for so long. I’ve been trying to let go of an old relationship that was so painful for me, and I could finally release it through this work.”
Anne
Netherlands
Meet Christian & Sumir

About Your Facilitators

Christian and I have a remarkable relationship —  inextricably soul connected, guardians of each other's goodness, in support of whatever brings the other joy, and in deep devotion to the emotional hygiene and heart intelligence that has created our rich and varied history.  However, it has been a long and winding road to get here.

I met Christian in early 2014, and within several months, a truly inspiring, heart opening romantic relationship began to blossom between us.  Because we were aligned and connected on so many levels, I felt a resounding “yes!” to help nurture and grow Christian’s visionary work, Heart iQ, joining his company as CEO, and by 2015 we set our sights on creating a home for the Heart iQ community.  On the first day of 2016, our shared vision was birthed!  New Eden, a beautiful retreat centre in the heart of Friesland, became ours to tend and raise like the love child it was.

As with many couples who partner in both professional purpose and romantic love, the years brought us plenty of challenges and lessons.  We shared sleepless nights and red eye flights; deliberated over financial challenges and the right next steps; gave everything we had to our community, sometimes even to our own detriment; built multiple successful businesses; traveled the world; laughed and grieved; stood before the firing squad of judgements, assumptions and doubts; and, eventually, shattered each other's hearts…yet we found our way back to one another again, stronger and deeper as a result of all that we had shared.

As we each have grown personally, our relationship has matured and has produced a capacity for us to weather any storm together.   Our shared love is surpassed only by our courage to lean into our fears and create a culture of emotional hygiene that continues to deepen our compassion, humor, gratitude, and support for one another.  Of course, we’re not perfect. We haven't been and don't aspire to be.  However, we trust that the broad range of our individual and shared experience, from tragedy to ecstasy, as well as our hearts, gifts and skills, allow us to uniquely support each of you on your own path of becoming.
Our team

Meet the Coaches

Frequently Asked Questions

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What is the Heart iQ Experience?
The Heart iQ Experience weekend is our Level 1 event, perfect for those new to Heart iQ and for those who have previously attended a retreat and wish to brush up on their skills and reconnect to the community.

In this weekend experience, you’ll be in a potent, transformational team with Christian, allowing you to experience new and liberating ways to connect to your true essence and melt the defensive walls that keep you from opening your Heart and tapping your potential that is buried beneath years of habitual closure and conditioning.

You’ll get to practice opening, not through psychological analysis, processing of your stories or digging up your past, but through exercises that connect you to your body, your life force and your vast depth of emotion and feeling.

You’ll learn how to communicate your truth from the deepest part of you, helping you express and share yourself with others and the world. In essence, you’ll be learning a new language — a language of unconditional love that goes way beyond the verbal expression that most of us rely upon.

It is a language that connects our Hearts, and when you become fluent, you'll have the key to unlock unlimited Joy whenever you want!

Deep personal happiness, healthy intimate relationships and resonant communities are created when these tools are learned, practiced and used in daily life.

If you feel called to study a deeper, richer, more heart-based approach to authentic leadership and connection, then look no further – the Heart iQ Experience will help you get there.
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How much time will it take?
The live training starts on Friday evening at 6.30pm and runs until Sunday afternoon at 5pm.

Although we have breaks scheduled, there won't be much time for other activities as we have a lot to cover.

We also have evening sessions so it's best to block out the weekend completely without any other commitments.
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Can I bring my partner? What if I don't have someone to do the training with, can I still do it alone?
Yes! we recommend doing this together with a loved one or friend as it provides an opportunity for you to continue and practice after the retreat is over.

That said, if you are planning on coming alone, you will still get huge value in doing this retreat.
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I don't live near any of the cities currently offered. What other cities will be served in the future?
The Heart iQ Experience is spreading and will come to the United States and the UK in 2023. Sign up to our mailing list to ensure you get updated on new locations and venues for future retreats.
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I've already attended the Heart iQ Experience. What's next?
First, you are welcome to repeat the Experience. No two retreats are the same and most repeat participants claim they go even deeper the second or third time.

Second, if you wish to deepen your relationship and upgrade your intimacy skills, then consider attending our Insights to Intimacy Retreat at New Eden. Click here to learn more.

Interested in becoming a Facilitator of Heart iQ? Join us for an upcoming Group Leadership Experience. Learn more here.


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I'm experienced in Heart iQ Is this for me?
Yes. This retreat will represent the cutting edge upgrades to the Heart iQ body of work, some of which will be completely new. Additionally, this experience is a pre-requisite for circle work and becoming a Heart iQ Coach or Facilitator, so if you wish to go deeper in the future, then now's the time to take action.

I have other questions... What do I do?

You can email us at support@heartiq.com